Friday, October 27, 2006

New York, New York. It's a Hell of a Town

I'm getting tres excited about moving up to New York. I'm checking craigslist and checking it twice. Aja and I have met up with Greg and deemed him an excellent future roommate. He's a hairstylist and will begin working in Frederic Fekkai's 5th Ave hair salon on November 1. He's a really nice, cool guy and we're lucky to have him. He's going to be looking for places up there while Aja and I look for places from down here. We're hoping for Park Slope, Brooklyn. I hear good things about it and I don't think I could really live in Manhattan. It would get exhausting, not to mention expensive.
So for that reason, at the same time I'm getting a little nervous about money. Or my lack of it. I've got some saved up and I'm adding to it often, but I won't have as much as I'd like. And I think it's making Aja antsy. She's been asking me about it and I don't know what to tell her, that I'll risk being broke and working two jobs in order to move up there? I don't think she understands how much I am determined to at least give this a shot. And I also don't think I realize how much New York could eat me alive. Or, well, I do. I just don't want to think about it. Because if I think about it too much I'll never have the nerve to actually do it. And I have to do it.
I have to throw myself off that cliff so that I can find out who I become in midfall. If that metaphor makes any sense to you. I have to take this chance and I don't want to take her down with me but I will do whatever I have to to try.
I'm really conflicted though. I don't know where to start looking. I don't know if I should just hope for some random PA jobs and work my way up to the movies that I want to work on or if I should intern in a production company for a while. I don't really want to do that if it will be at all like my last glorious experience. But that might be the best way to get into the work I want. I'm learning about some internships with companies I like and I'm researching restaurants in the meantime. I just don't know where I'll end up. At times that is exciting and at times it makes me want to throw up. But isn't that how you know you're really living? At least that's how I know. The throw-up taste in the back of my mouth.

Saturday, October 14, 2006

Thank God for Friends

Tonight as I looked around the booth at my friends I realized how much I enjoy my life right now. I’m definitely looking toward the future but I’m also appreciating the present more than I ever have these days.
It was one of the first times I’ve gone to McCormick & Schmick’s bar and throughly enjoyed myself. When Aja, Sofia and I got there we were soon joined by Mark who had just gotten off work at M&S across the street. We got our drinks and had our laughs at dumb stuff Mark said. My old manager, Erica, stopped by and we giggled over a drunken night we’d had ages ago. She remembers it pleasantly because she is now dating the guy she ended up with. I barely remember my guy’s name but I didn’t want to tell her how unfun it had been for me.
Paul dropped by out of nowhere and squashed into the booth and then disappeared and reappeared clutching a cognac. He expertly rolled a cigarette and launched into South Park’s “The Passion of the Jew,” which had us rolling. Patrick from the bar gave me a wave and Sofia asked how long I had worked here. “A couple of months.” I replied. When we left John, the flaming waiter from M&S gave me a squeeze and a kiss on the cheek. “When are you going to come back to M&S?” John asked. “Never.” I thought to myself. “I’d have to spend too much time with this fucker.” I joked, pointing to Mark. Patrick gave me another wave as we headed out the door.
I’ve never really loved Reston and I’m ready to move out of here; but lately it has been much more fun. It definitely helps that I can drink now and it also helps that I’ve worked in Reston my whole life. And as much as I hated the time I spent in McCormick & Shits I now have a bunch of people that greet me whenever I go by. And I have a group of friends who make going there fun. My friends Aja and Sofia definitely make the experience of crappy suburban bars more enjoyable.
I’m trying not to think too much about the future. I want to live my life now, not later. But I couldn’t help hoping that Aja and I will find in New York what we’ve only recently found here—friends who make dingy bars and cheap beer fun and interesting. It’s like the college group I never found at Mason. We can have a big laugh together and hang out later and see the same people over and over but because we’re together it’s more fun. I never found it at Mason or at Tower. I never found it at Expulsion and I envied it at Shepherd. But now I’ve finally started to find my group. Some of them are moving up to New York thankfully. I don’t want to lose it completely as soon as I’ve found it.
They say the twenties are the best years of your life. Or something like that. I don’t want to be in my twenties forever but I am definitely enjoying them while they last. Late nights, shitty jobs, cheap beer and good friends.

Wednesday, October 04, 2006

A Day in the Life of the Unemployed

I woke up early to my cellphone ringing. Instantly the lion I had been talking to was replaced with a tangled seafoam green duvet. I couldn’t get my cell phone open and accidently hung up on Aja. After a few more attempts we reached each other. My voice was groggy to her vibrant one.
“Yoga this morning?”
“Yeah. Fine. Okay.”
“I’ll be there in a few.”
I sank back down into the pillow, anxious to find the lion again and reassure his sad, elegant face that I wasn’t giving him away. The alarm on my phone went off and I resigned myself to waking up.
Julia was already gone when I went into her room. I thought she might be late for work but it seems she woke up and got dressed so silently I didn’t even hear the usual hairdryer that rips me from sleep with its angry whirrs. The shoes we bought yesterday to share for work were in the middle of the floor in the hallway. I tripped over them and wondered why she didn’t bother wearing them. It was a mystery that I wanted answers to but one that couldn’t be solved at such an early hour. My brain isn’t into cognitive thinking at that hour. I got dressed in some clothes I stole from Julia’s room, finding my old powder blue sports bra on the floor, some mesh black pants in her closet and a long, bright green tank. I admired my color scheme as I pulled the green tank top over my head and it came to rest on the blue bra. A crescent of the bra showed and complimented the green tank. I always work out better if I know I’m well dressed.
I stood outside eating a plum, and as the juices ran down my fingers I called Aja to tell her I’d meet her at the gym and afterwards we could take my car to get an oil change. For the past couple of days the oil light blinked on at every sharp turn. Low oil gets me nervous. I destroyed my first car like that.
At yoga I took my place beside Aja on my mat and focused on my breathing as we went through the motions. I always forget to breath consistently and end up with a headache. The yoga room is a large studio on the top floor of the Y and it has a wall of windows that looks out onto the parking lot and across the street to the Target. I watched the cars drive past, and the people in the Target lot, and felt superior to them because I was doing something good for my health and my spirit, while they were polluting the air and consuming cheap commercial goods. The view is great for thinking like that. I could hear the aerobics class in the next room and the instructor barking out her chipper orders. I felt better than them too. They were just getting a cardio work out. I was concentrating on my breathing and slow movement to relax and strengthen my body. This wasn’t just about losing weight. It was about losing the tension of daily life too.
I wondered about the moves as we eased into them. I wondered if yogis really had stood with one foot on their thigh, their hands in the prayer position over their heart, balancing on one foot on a mountain for days, like I remember hearing at a temple. Or maybe it was one of their many gods. I don’t think ordinary yogis could ever do anything quite like that.
The guy next to me was struggling with his breathing and when we faced left I watched his hairy legs bulging out of his shorts. At the end of class he walked out with his shorts pinched between his ass cheeks. Gym goers like that gross me out. Extra hairy or sweaty men who go to gyms and exhale their breath in short little bursts and execute their moves with a certain flair that they think gives them finesse in the art of yoga. He was probably a very good person but he was ruining my peaceful yoga mindset. I had to get it back before the end of class. I watched a pregnant woman in the back of class. Whenever we did twisting moves she meditated. I wondered if too much twisting would wrench the baby loose. There are so many things about pregnancy that I don’t know.
After class Aja and I drove my car to the auto shop and then went to get coffee only to find that our local Starbucks was closed for renovations. We couldn’t get our coffees and read magazines like we wanted. We went to Einstein Bagels instead, which was fine with me since I was hungry for something other than a pastry. Even my everything bagel with plain cream cheese didn’t kill my healthy yoga buzz. I went to the bank and deposited cash and checks that added up quickly to an amount that makes me happy.
When Aja dropped me off she came in for a cup of tea and we looked at apartments in New York on craigslist and suddenly that amount of money seemed like nothing. I tried to hide the nervous sense of panic that I got from the thought of paying $600 a month for rent and needing money left over for food and other things and not yet having a job but it wasn't easy. Aja had to talk me down from a figurative tree.
Money is the quickest way for me to lose a good health vibe. I start feeling grabby, like I want to snatch any loose money or coins that might be around and hug it to my chest for safe keeping. I get a little short of breath and start plotting how to get more, like a modern day Rockefeller. I imagine myself as a shriveled old man, shrewdly calculating how to squeeze a few extra pennies out of my workers’ wages while sitting in my high wingback chair in a massive, shadowy office. Or, I imgaine myself as one of the children of Rockefeller’s workers who goes around collecting coal from the gutter and wearing a ratty dress that is grey from wear. I shouldn’t have read ‘The Jungle’. It gives me too much fodder for my imagination.
I just finished doing my writing for the day, and am about to commence making grown up phone calls so I can begin earning money that will just go to renting an apartment in New York City where I hopefully will get a real job and blow this popsicle stand.